I Need Your Help
posted by lindsay on August 25th, 2008
Since I have a lot of free time these days, I'm really curious about a certain subject, and I'm trying to study it a bit. I can't accurately study it, though, because I'm stuck in a bed with limited access to people. And people are the core of the subject. :)
Okay, I'm rambling. Basically, I want you to leave me a comment. Make it anonymous. I'm pretty sure there's a way to erase your info, even if the site has remembered it for you. I think you've just gotta delete it out of the entry box.
***EDITED TO ADD: I want everyone to participate! Whether we know you in real life or not, please join in! If this is your first time visiting the blog, that's even better! I'm trying to get a really diverse look into other people's hearts.***
This is what I want you to put in your comment:
Who do you think you are? At your best? At your worst? When you look in the mirror, what do you see? When you look in your heart, what do you find? What are your dreams and fears? According to you, who are you?
(And don't include any spiritual mumbo-jumbo, okay? Just tell me in really regular terms what you think about yourself.)
I promise there is a point to this, and I'm not going to leave you hanging. I just need this info to help me more accurately understand the people around me. I think we all have a lot of beliefs about ourselves that we aren't necessarily willing to share with other people. Like I said, there's a point. I'm going to address these things at a later date, so I promise I'm not just asking you to reveal your deep thoughts without any sort of compensation. :)
Remember, keep it anonymous! I don't want to know who thinks what. I just want to know what you all think about yourselves.
Ready? Set. Go!
What Do I Think of Me?
At my best I am compassionate, smart, witty, and fun. At my worst I am the biggest b*tch this side of the Mississippi and the things that come out of my mouth can be very awful. So because I know this, I am try to keep my temper in check and stay surrounded by positive people who aren't interested in bull.I know I am an attractive woman. There are things about my body that I don't necessarily love but I live with them. I dream of being a superwoman. WHat I mean by that is, I want to have it all. I want to be an entrpreneur but still be a mommy in the same capacity that I am in now. And while I know how hard that is, I want to believe that I don't want to have to choose. I fear not being able to take care of my kids. Right now in this economy, I feel unsure about my ability to do so if things continue the way they seem to be going.
I hope this is what you are looking for.
Who do you think you are? I
Who do you think you are? I know I am a mother, a wife, a daughter, a sister etc.
At your best? I am supportive, I am loving,and caring. I am a good mother and wife. An OK sister & a good daughter.
At your worst? I am opinionated, I have an attitude and dont like to put up with crap. LOL. I think I have a short fuse which can be a problem with my boys. I try my best but i know i fail often.
When you look in the mirror, what do you see? someone whos deep down not as happy as she wish she were. Overweight, pregnant, and disgusted with herself.
When you look in your heart, what do you find? Hurt, failure, and not as spiritual as she wish she were.
What are your dreams and fears? I wish I were happier, I fear losing my family.
According to you, who are you? Well, after all that, I'm not really sure anymore. I know I'm a good mom.
At my best I am a sensitive,
At my best I am a sensitive, caring person who is genuinely concerned about the people around me and wants to see them succeed and become the best that they can be (not in the army though). I am a great mom with lots of energy and the drive to help my kids be better people who will grow up to lead moral and well balanced lives.
At my worst I am selfish and petty. I can be hurtful and may sometimes say things that I know will hurt other people just to make them feel as bad as I do. I do not care for this side of myself at all. I can be an angry and dark person.
I think in general I tend to live my life somewhere in the middle. I try to be the best person but a little of the worst person somehow seems to slip in there.
I am a pretty lost person at
I am a pretty lost person at the moment. At my best I am kind, caring, and helpful. At my worst I am petty, manipulative, and mean. When I look in the mirror, I don't really like what I see, and not just physically. I have definitely let myself go a little bit, but I don't like the person I have become. I have let pain from my past affect how I treat those in my present. I push those that I love the most away because it seems easier than caring too much and getting hurt, because that is my biggest fear. Losing those that I love.
Who do you think you are? I
Who do you think you are? I am just one of many women trying to make it in this world. I am a friend, a wife, a mother, a daughter, a sister, and a pain in the a$$.
At my best: I am loyal, caring, funny, intellegent, and sincere.
At my worst: I'm a gossip, lazy, spoiled, b!tchy, a know it all, and demanding.
When you look in the mirror, what do you see? I see someone who could lose some weight, I see someone who could get away without wearing make up, I see someone who needs to pluck her eyebrows, I see someone who needs some style to her hair.
When you look in your heart, what do you find? I find a lot of love for those I hold dear, compassion for those in need, bitterness for those who have crossed me, envy for those who have more than me, acceptance for the person I am, and hope for the person I want to become.
What are your dreams and fears? My dreams, to be honest, are for my family to be happy, healthy, and financially stable. I want my kids to grow up to be respectable members of society, I want my husband to not have to break his back daily to put food on the table, I want my mom to live long enough to see my grandchildren be born. I want to never have to question people or their ill intentions. I want to be secure in myself and those around me. I want to win the lottery and never have to stress about money.
My fears are losing those I care for, being a failure as a mother, the husband trading me in on a prettier model, my car getting repoed, being attacked by birds, and witnessing a plane crash.
According to you, who are you? I'm just a gal trying to figure out adult life. Being a wife, being a mother, not repeating old mistakes, and learning from those I made and will make in the future. I do not define myself as a mom, or as a wife, but as myself. Those things make up who I am, but they do not define who I am. I am the lady who always says hi if we make eye contact at the grocery store. I am the lady struggling to get her kids off the swings and into the car at the playground. I am the lady who will make sure to hold the door open while people are filing in. I am the lady who talks to herself in walmart because she left the shopping list in the car and doesn't want to go back to get it. I am the lady who calls her husband on the phone while he is upstairs to tell him to bring me a pop. I am the lady who will make friends with the stranger sitting next to her because conversation passes time. I am the lady who will complain to the restaurant manager if my food is uncooked or my service was bad. I am the lady who will tell you to expect a mess when you come over, because I know I won't have time to clean up. I am the lady who freaks out when she sees an unattended child at the mall. I have been known to start arguments while drinking, and I have known to settle disputes the same night. I am a good person, quirks and all, but I do my best.
Who am I?
At your best? At my best: I am a supportive and loving wife, a good counselor to friends, dedicated to my schooling and committed to serving God with all my might and reaching people with his love
At your worst? I am overly critical of myself and sometimes of my poor husband, I worry about things that dont need worrying over, I get lazy and procrastinate, I completely forget sometimes that God is in control and don't give him my time.
When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Fat. and blemishes. Eye's that are more gray than blue. Hair that never looks good. I see my Mom and Dad. But I also see.... confidence despite all the negative. I see perfect white teeth when I smile. I see a strong person who can handle life's punishes and isn't easily dragged down.
When you look in your heart, what do you find? I am very passionate. I hate to see people hurting. Especially Women. I desire to heal all the generations of women who have been torn down and attacked. I also have a neverending love for my husband, my unborn child and all of my family.
What are your dreams and fears? I dream to raise a Godly family and to travel around the world, reaching out to people... also I dream to be a writer and have my books help women around the world conquer their pasts and take control of their futures.
According to you, who are you? I am a Women of God with many faults and many downsides but not nothing but faults. I see myself as someone who has wisdom that can share her wisdom to others. I see myself as someone with a lot to say and none of it is meaningless. I see a wife, a mother, a daughter, and a writer.
I hope I didnt add too much "spiritual" stuff... I just don't know how to completely explain who I am and what my future goals are in life without including God since he has made me who I am and my future goals include him.
Who am I?
At my best, I am full of life, hope, and love! I'm vibrant, compassionate, enthusiastic, beautiful, hot/sexy lover of my husband, hysterical, wild, inspiring, motivating, a cheerleader, a non-judmental friend, a confidant, brilliant, witty, creative and a peacemaker.
At my worst, I am a hag from hell. I am evil. I am selfish, bitter, jealous, deceptive, fake, a wretch, a crappy mom, a really crappy wife, and self absorbed. Did I mention that I'm a whiner and complainer? I can tear people down to the core of their being with just a few words and mean every one of them. I can be controlling, one track minded on what I want, driven to not think of anyone else around me and the reprocussions of my actions. At my ultimate worst, I look down upon others around me and think of how great I am! Then, worst of all....I eat my children's candy bars and pretend I don't know what happened to them.
When I look in my heart I find a mixture of things..some good and some bad. I find a woman who has been deeply wounded by others who loved her. I see a little girl who still wants her mommy to just hold and love her unconditionally. I see that little girl that was betrayed by her mother. I see a broken heart that desperately needs healed one day at a time. I find a woman who is following somewhat in the steps of her own mother and hates it. I see a woman who would love to bestow revenge on her husband for the painful things he's done over the years, but I do know it's wrong. These are the types of evil dark thoughts I face or struggle with. It's literally by the grace of God that I've not killed anyone.
When I look in the mirror I see a full figured, confident and energetic gal. My dreams are to raise a family that loves Jesus and takes care of one another. You asked for no God talk, but my biggest fear REALLY is for my "legacy" to be a bunch of garbage, for my kids to disown me when they grow older and to only focus on all the bad I did as a mom. I fear my husband one day getting sick and tired of my crap and saying good bye to me. (I don't really think this would happen, but I sure do fear it.)
I dream of my children and their children and their children gathering at our home and laughing, eating, hanging out together, loving one another, not gossipping about one another and we all can just be real about our short comings. I hate, I hate I hate "fake" relationships... you know the ones where people get together for family reunions but would rather be doing something else, they don't really love their family, they are just obligated to them and smile and say "How have you been? It's been so long since I've seen you!" Then they gossip later about how fat that cousin has gotten or how annoying they are. I dream of being a humble servant for God, one that studies the Bible and can really, really be changed by God. My fear is to fail my family.
So, according to me, I'm just a mess of things, yet hopeful that God will continue to use me despite me. Sorry for the God talk- couldn't help it.
I'm literally such a mess on the inside that I would've already committed suicide if it weren't for the hope that God has given me. Darkness can snuff out the light so easily if I'm not careful.
Who do you think you are?
Who do you think you are? I'm first a mom, then wife, then full time market researcher. I am also a friend, a sister.
At your best? I think I'm funny, creative, passionate, caring, earnist, organized, smart.
At your worst? I am defensive, angry, pushy, anxiety ridden, lazy, ambivolent.
When you look in the mirror, what do you see? pretty face, nice smile, tiny nose, wrinkles, fat body, awsome hair.
When you look in your heart, what do you find? deep conern for those around me.
What are your dreams and fears? I dream of raising self assertive and caring kids. Of traveling with my husband. Of being peaceful and not so anxious. Also, I'd kind of like a pool/spa someday :) I fear being alone, I fear failure.
According to you, who are you? I am a mom and a wife and a friend. Not much else to say., :)
I am – a work in
I am – a work in progress
At my best, I am – confident in my decisions; I see the world with clarity instead of self-doubt.
At my worst, I am – oppressed by my legacy, depression and anxiety.
When I look in the mirror, I see – someone who struggles to be the ideal of beauty, but never quite succeeds.
When I look in my heart, I find - someone who is wonderful, exuberant, hopeful, compassionate and full of promise. This is the someone who is generally hidden from the world.
My dreams are – to find a livelihood that makes me happy and fulfilled; to see my children grow into adults who are of strong character, wise, and fulfilled, whatever that means to them; to be a living example of compassion, patience and wisdom.
My fears are – I won’t ever reach a point when I’m “satisfied”, when I have enough; I will fail my children; always a fear of making the wrong decision
I am – someone who is difficult to know, but worth the effort.
Who do you think you are? A
Who do you think you are? A wife, soon to be mom, daughter, sister, aunt and friend. Someone who always tries to do the right thing.
At your best? Overly caring, sensitive, kind, loving, generous & sincere.
At your worst? Moody, emotional, stubborn and aggrivating
When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Someone who I wish I could change. I definately look better than I did when I was young but I am still not happy with myself today. I also see someone who has failed at her goals.
When you look in your heart, what do you find? Love and hope for everyone around me. Worry that things will go wrong.
What are your dreams and fears? My dream would be to finish a bacholor degree, DH and I to both have good jobs near family, and to raise wonderful children. My fears are losing people and animals that I love. I REALLY want my children to have the compasion that I do. According to you, who are you? Someone who wants to be able to do everything for everyone. Someone who others respect because they know my hearts intent.
What I think of me
When I think of myself, I think that I am a VERY organized, intense, curious, anal yet extremely intense. I'm an all or nothing kind of girl. I find that I can be very cold because at times and certain situations I am shy yet when approached first I am very friendly, funny, outgoing and known as the fun gal to have around. I have a hard surface with and extremly soft center. I am logical, realistic, efficient yet easily annoyed and very independant. I am also very set in my ways and very difficult to change and am hard headed. When I look in the mirror I see someone who is pretty yet not overly confident and very humble. Sometimes I'm plain and sometimes I'm extravagant with my appearance. I'm a strong woman with strong options yet very easy to talk to and very understanding. With all my faults and even my qualities, i am comfortable and accepting of who I am and who I have become.
Anyone?
Do you want all readers (including lurkers) to answer this question, or only those individuals you know in "real life?"
Everyone!!!
Everyone! Regular readers, real-life friends, internet friends, lurkers, first time visitors...
Anyone and everyone! I'm trying to get a really, really, really diverse look into the heart of (hu)man. :)
Who do you think you are?
Who do you think you are? At your best? At your worst? When you look in the mirror, what do you see? When you look in your heart, what do you find? What are your dreams and fears? According to you, who are you?
I am a wife and a mother to be and a loving daughter. At my best I am trustworthy, compassionate, patient, understanding and giving. At my worst, I am selfish and not good with money. When I look in my heart, I know it's made of gold and I have nothing but the best of intentions. I find the biggest spot in my heart for my family, and my husband and the children I pray I have someday soon. I find a mother, I just want to love and be loved in return. When I look in the mirror, I need to loose a few pounds, I have gained too many during this pregnancy! I see the new woman I have become and try to erase the one I used to be. My dreams are to have a family and raise respectful kids. I dream of being married to my husband forever and being happy and living within our means. My fears are being too materialistic and not being satisfied with the beautiful life I have. According to me, I just want to spend time with my family and husband and raise our kids together and be married for 64 years like my grandparents. All I need is love.
Me...
At my best: I am patient, funny, witty, a good listener, an attentive mommy and wife, a good friend, open to change
At my worst: I am lazy. Much, much too lazy. I spend too much time on the computer and sleeping. I focus on the things we don't have too much. I feel like I am always playing catch-up.
When I look in the mirror, I don't like what I see as much as I used to. I see stretch marks, sagging belly and boobs, a broken out face (much too late in life for that) and hair that I can't get quite right. When I get dressed up to go out somewhere, I feel fairly satisfied with my looks, but there is really a lot I would like to look different. I have probably felt worse about my looks in the last six months than I have ever in my life.
When I look in my heart, I find someone who really wants to be the best me I can be. I want to change, I want to be proud of myself at the end of the day. I want to feel like I was a really good wife and mom that day. I still put too much on what I did/did not do for God that day, and am always afraid that I am letting Him down, when I really want to have a loving relationship with Him.
My dreams are to raise my family well. To raise kids who love Jesus and are polite and make good decisions. My dream is to be madly in love with my husband long after our kids have moved out. My dream is to be a person of love and discipline, and balance the two well.
My fear is death. I don't mean that I fear death as in heaven. I am secure in that, and looking forward to eternity with my Jesus. My fear is that either I will die and my husband will be alone to raise our family, or vice versa. I fear having to start over.
According to me, I am really, truly a caring person. I long for close relationships and to always be open to God changing me.
Even as I write this, I realize how much I need to realize that God loves me for who I am now, not who I have to be.
Who do you think you are? I
Who do you think you are?
I am a whole person who does not need anyone else to "complete" but who needs lots of other people to support. I am often a walking contradiction because I have a sure sense of self. The only time I am not sure of myself, is when I'm quiet. I'm trying define myself more everyday so I'm 100% sure of who I am ALL the time.
At your best?
I am the most generous friend with a big heart. I love and forgive and dream and hope. I am unafraid and uninhibited. I have a non-spastic enthusiasm that is very contagious. (I must specify non-spastic, because sometimes I get spastically excited and thats not at my best lol). I am kind to everyone and don't hold judgements and charm the pants off anyone in a non-manipulative way.
At your worst?
I am angry and selfish. Which wouldn't be so bad, except I often take my anger out on people who don't deserve (not even the ones who make me angry) and I throw myself pity parties and could cry all day. I clam up and I ache and I don't let anyone try to help. If they do, I almost lash out at them. I have a hard time letting people in when I am feeling vulnerable, which I do a lot.
When you look in the mirror, what do you see?
I see youth and hope and magic. All of it, from the twinkle in my eyes to the bulging baby in my abdomen. There are flaws...sometimes I get really bad bags under my eyes even as young as I am (genetics) and this pregnancy has turned my skin against me...but there's so much light that you don't notice. I'm not ugly, nor truly stunningly beautiful. Perhaps pretty at most, but I can clearly see a light in myself now that I have finally got my head on straight. When I cleaned up myself on the inside, you could tell all the way on the outside.
When you look in your heart, what do you find?
I find so much hope and love that its hard to contain it. But there are cracks and aches and little tears. As big as it is, it still hurts. It will never stop loving, but it is so vulnerable. I find it to be so full but wanting to be loved and wanted by someone mutually romantically. There is no lack of people I am loving or who are loving me in the big sense, but in the romantic sense...there's a huge emptiness. Not an incomplete emptiness, but just a longing to have someone to share my life and my heart with.
What are your dreams and fears?
I am scared of never finding a father for my son. I am scared of so many things involving him, the way I imagine any mother worries. For the first time in my life, I am scared of dying because I don't want to leave him in this world. It is selfish, I suppose because I know there are people such as my parents who would take him in but I want to raise him and see the type of man he will grow to be. I dream of finding romantic love where I don't lose myself in someone else but find someone who makes me the best me possible, and who loves my son as if he were his own. I dream of being financially stable but hope to teach my son the difference between truly being rich in life and having money.
According to you, who are you?
I am a girl who is headed in the right direction but still has a lot to figure out.
Who do you think you are?
Who do you think you are? At the very core a person who takes care of others. I would have to use the term "mother" even though I'm not allows taking about a child. I'm a mother to my husband, friends and family. I like to see people grow and reach their dreams, whatever they may be.
At your best? Powerfully supportive strong women.
At your worst? An unreasonable nag :0)
When you look in the mirror, what do you see? An average person. Average weight, height and looks. Nothing special, just average.
When you look in your heart, what do you find? A lot of hurt. A very hard life with lessons that should not have been learned. A loving spirit who believes in more.
What are your dreams and fears? Dreams? Overall is simply to have a happy life. I wish for a healthy loving family and an easy life for my kids. Fears? So many! Big picture there is financial failure, dying young, anyone I know dying young, any and all types of pain, losing my house and being "enough" for everyone. Small fears are more like the dark, spiders, mold, thunder and germs.
According to you, who are you? This is hard. Again I would have to say a mother.
Who do you think you are?
Who do you think you are? I'm a wife, mother, sister, daughter, friend
At your best? I can be kind, caring, a good listener, loving, and patient
At your worst? I can be impatient, frustrated easily, vein, stubborn, and insensitive (I'm sure the list goes on!)
When you look in the mirror, what do you see? I see someone who has recovered from anorexia. I don't always love my new body but I respect that I was able to nurture and love my son in this body. I see a scar from where my feeding tube used to be, right next to the stretch marks from my son. I see bittersweet.
When you look in your heart, what do you find? I find overwhelming love for my family. A sense of loss, a sense of fear, a sense of hope for the future.
What are your dreams and fears? My dreams are mostly for my son. That he would have a life full of love and a sense of security always. That he would have confidence and independence and of course, health. I have fears that my son will grow up in a world that is full of war and hatred on a planet that is dying. I fear that my husband will feel like his life was not fulfilling. One of my biggest fears is the death of my husband or a loved one, and of course, my own death.
According to you, who are you? A person trying to make themselves whole, someone who has learned from their mistakes and someone who is still making mistakes. Someone who is defined by their appearance, but changing that definition every day.
Thank you, this has been an enlightening experience for me.
L'il ole me?
Wow, Lindsay, great question(s)....
At my best, I am strong, and loving, and honest. At my worst, I am weak, and fearful and selfish. In the mirror, I mostly see someone I like and would want to be friends with, and for that I'm thankful. My hope is to be a blessing to someone today. My fears are to become ill or weak and be a burden to someone tomorrow. But on my "strong days" I know that just can't happen! God bless you!!!
On the Inside
I'm that girl who hides from love. I'm afraid of being hurt so I tend not to let people in. I've built walls that I secretly wish people would climb. I tell them not to come in because I think they'll hate what they see, but I want them to look past that and realize I need them to come in to prove I'm worth it. I'm that girl who will work at it and give it my best for others while shafting myself (and not think twice about it).
At my heart I love deeply, I feel vividly, I'm just not very good at telling people. I try to show them with my actions, but still I do not show it adequately. I don't really understand myself or my thoughts most of the time.
Sometimes I think I'm pretty. Sometimes I don't. I know that true beauty lies on the inside, but sometimes I feel like filth. I see the imperfections when I look in the mirror, but most of the time [anymore] I can also pick out to good things about my appearance.
One day I dream of helping people out of the pit I dug myself into. I know what it's like to hate what you see, to be dealt crap, and to come out okay. I want people to know they are loved, and they are worth it. I want people to feel beautiful and confident. I want to provide a comfortable place for them to come and spill all their hurt and know there will be no condemnation and that they are still loved.
I am just an ordinary girl living an ordinary life trying to listen to God and not stumble too badly.
Who do you think you are??
At my best?? I am a loving wife, patient and loving mother, a friend and good listener, best friend, sister, daughter, and a child of God. I am very giving, willing to help at a moments notice, a good housekeeper, and a person that strives to be my best more often.
At my worst?? Impatient, not very loving to my husband, short temptered with my children, insecure and selfish with my time.
When I look in the mirror?? I see a very average person that needs to loose some weight, have some lyposuction on my thighs and double chin. I could use a makeover, inside and out. I can be very insecure and worry that people don't like me. I can secretly read people very well. I can tell when someone is being dishonest with me, but I don't call them on it. I a lot of the time, don't give my opinion when I should.
When I look at my heart, and see a very giving and kind hearted person. I like to be half full instead of half empty. I can often be somewhat shy, which I think people take it as being snoby, but I'm not. Sometimes, my heart can be hard and I feel that my family may be better then theirs.
My dreams: to live a happy and healthy life. Love people and laugh often. Serve my family, and have healthy children. To raise my children to be kind, loving, honest, respectful, and have Jesus in their hearts. To grow old with my husband and have fantastic memories. To have life long friends with a couple that I can completed trust with my deepest and darkest secrets.
My fears: that I may loose my family, that my husband decides that he needs a prettier wife that is a bette cook and housekeeper. That something would happen to my children, someone would take them and harm them, or they become very ill and would not be able to enjoy life to the fullest. I worry about money and not being able to give freely and provide the best for my family. I fear that I will continue to gain weight and not have the control to be the healthy weight and person I should be.
Who am I? Someone that is just trying to be the best person I can be.
Me Thoughts
At my best I am a thoughtful, witty, laid back girl. At my worst, I am an overly emotional mess who easily gives up on God's sovereignty when I'm stressed. When I look in the mirror I see a "cute" girl most days. I love my hair these days! However, I do still struggle with body issues occasionally. Sometimes I realize my genetics make weight loss tricky, and I'm okay with that, but other times I'm ready to give up! When I look in my heart I find a women committed to God and His plans for me. I may get off track, but He always brings me back to Him. I have a passion for children and people, and I want to spend my life honoring Him in serving others. My dream is to have a family that honors God...point blank. I want to be the type of mom that my kids can be honest with, but also a mom that they can count on to discipline them. I want to be a family that does things together often and actually enjoys it! Another dream of mine is to find a way to use my gift/love for teaching in a way that I thoroughly enjoy. My fear....that I will die young before any of this happens. I have always had a weird feeling since I was young that something is going to happen to me. I have a decent amount of minor health issues I battle on a daily basis and sometimes my mind wanders and convinces myself that "this is it." So there you have it...at the core I am a Christ-follower who desires to honor Him, but I won't ever pretend that I have it all together!
I am -
A follower of Christ who is ever seeking to be the person I was created to be. The best possible mom, daughter, wife, sister, friend and servant I can possible be.
At my best I am loyal, forgiving, helpful, gentle, understanding, able to see both sides of an issue, an excellent communicator and counselor, funny, positive, strong, and intelligent.
At my worst, I am LAZY, unproductive, hateful, manipulative, harsh, demanding, selfish and a complete moron when I don't get my way. ugh. gross.
When I look in the mirror, I love what I see. I'm very happy to love and accept my appearance after years of wishing for this that or whatever. I'm not perfect, but I'm very happy with what I've been given.
When I look in my heart, I also love what I see. I have an intense desire to love and be loved, and to be pursued the way that I am willing to pursue those that I love most. I see an inner beauty despite the ugliness of me "at my worst". I recognize what that is, and believe that being aware of your issues is the first step in conquering them... I love that I am disgusted by myself when I slip, and that I am so motivated to work at it, especially when I see others with the same ugliness. I love how God shows you through other people, what needs to be addressed in your own life... I know that the good far out weighs the bad, and I know that all of that good can only come from God and the tireless work He has put in on me...
My dream is to be a great example to my daughter. I want to raise her to be a phenomenal person who changes the world just by being a part of it. I want to have a fantastic relationship with her when she is an adult, as a result of doing things right - not because I tried to be her friend at all times.... Does that make sense? I want to grow old with my husband and I want as much time as possible with the people I hold dear.
My fear is becoming my mother, and everything that would entail... I too fear an early death or losing my husband or child. I also fear not living up to my potential.
According to me, I am the product of this crazy life's experiences, good, bad and ugly. I believe everything in my life has lead me to the person I am today, and despite the fact that it hasn't always been fun - I know not many people can honestly say that they love who they are both inside and out, so for that reason - I wouldn't trade any of it.
Me on Me
I am a friend, wife, mother, daughter, sister, aunt, and daughter-in-law.
At my best, I am a positive person. I am organized, loyal, forgiving, enthusiastic, considerate, and kind. I honor my parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles, and those of my husband.
At my worst, I am very self-critical, judgmental of others, a little bit lazy, and if hurt enough, I hold a grudge in my heart even when my actions don’t reveal it.
When I look in the mirror, I see leftover baby weight (nursing weight?) that I would desperately love to lose and a body that I don’t think I will ever truly recognize again. I see a pretty face, curly hair, and eyes that my husband tells me look like Natalie Wood’s eyes.
When I look in my heart, I find love for my family. If I am being totally honest, I can admit that I do not find love for my husband's family --- they have done too many hurtful things for me to make myself vulnerable to them any more.
I hope to have another baby (but to lose the weight from #1 first) when we are ready, to continue to have a happy marriage for many years, to live enough below our means that we can retire comfortably and do the things we want to do without money worries, and that my child(ren) will grow up to be happy, well-adjusted, successful people.
My biggest fear is that something will happen to me and that my child will grow up without a mom. I worry that my husband’s family will depend upon us for financial support and that it will mean I must go back to work instead of being able to stay at home with our child(ren). On a less serious level, I am also slightly afraid of cats --- I don’t like the way they seem content and then turn on a dime to scratch your eyes out.
I hope that's what you're looking for, Lindsay!
This is who I am:
Who do you think you are? i am a wife, a mother, a sister, a daughter and a very loyal friend to those that i hold close to my heart.
At your best? i am confident, smart, always trustworthy, no matter what. i am a lover and a best friend. i work hard and strive to know every little aspect of what is going on, work-wise or other. i am a great mommy and strive to be a great wife too, although i know i sometimes fail.
At your worst? i am judgmental, negative, overbearing and expect perfection when i know it isn't possible. i can be short tempered and snappy, even though i don't mean to.
When you look in the mirror, what do you see? i see someone who could lose a few(read:several) pounds. i see a woman who has let herself go. i see a woman who is depressed by what she sees and needs to find herself again. i will always see a mommy when i look at myself, but i also need to be sure that i see MYSELF. i see a woman who knows her walk with God is lacking but has a hard time with "self" and also letting go and letting God.
When you look in your heart, what do you find? i find a wonderful, loving, caring, compassionate person. i know now what true, unconditional love is. i also find hurt from past experiences that have helped me grow as a person, wife, mother, daughter, and friend.
What are your dreams and fears? My dreams are for my child(ren) to grow up being respected members of society. Also, for them to have respect for others and manners to their elders and other authority figures. I also dream to be able to stay home with my child(ren) and not miss those first years that are so crucial to their development. I dream of being with my husband, in our retirement years, enjoying each other and still knowing each other as the person we are and not just as "mom and dad". My dreams are for relaxing, restful night sleep, every night ! ! :)
According to you, who are you? i am mommy, wife and daughter. i am a hard worker. i am a lover and a fighter. I fight for what i know is right and i will also step down when i know i am wrong. i am confident and also VERY hard-headed.
I think I might be the first
I think I might be the first male to write on here. But when I look at myself I see somebody that at his best is peaceful, kind, goofy, loving, and humble--a great husband, good employee, etc. But at my worst I see someone who is prideful, anxious, selfish, and worrisome. I'm a mixed bag. I could mention a lot of "spiritual" explanations of why this is, but at the heart of it all, I am confident that God can keep changing me from a rebel into someone that is increasingly obedient to Him and loving to others. If it weren't for Jesus, I would be an absolute train wreck--of that I have no doubt. He gives me hope and confidence that God can bring good even out of me.
One of my favorite quotes is: "I am a great sinner. Jesus is a great Savior." That basically sums it up for me. (You can probably tell who this is...sorry)
I hope you're not the last!
I have no idea who you are. I'm serious. I keep reading these and thinking, "Oh! I bet that's..." Then the person will say something like, "and this baby growing me..." And I think, "Ohp! Nope! Not who I thought it was..." LOL! It's cool to see how much we all have in common.
Like I said in the title ofthis comment, you may be the first male, but I hope you're not the last! Thanks for participating!
Who I am....
Reading over this I feel like such a downer...I don't think this poorly of myself...do I???
At my best I am:
A good friend, listener, caring mother, hard worker, Christian, a good wife.
At my worst I am:
My mother, a walking time bomb, too hard on my kids, stingy with money (not so much when it comes to myself or my children, though), not to confident in my parenting skills, procrastinator.
When I look in the mirror I see:
An overweight me, I see someone that works out and still can’t lose the weight (due to my thyroid???), I see an okay upper-half followed by a too large lower half.
My heart:
In my heart I love my husband but, I often wonder if we were meant to be. I know that we were brought together for a reason, but he has hurt me in so many ways and does little to show his love for me. I am determined to make us work...though I hate to admit that fixing our relationship is almost always the last thing on our list with our busy lives.
In my heart I love my kids more than anything in this world...I would do anything for them.
Dreams:
Have my husband follow his dream of going to college so that he can work at a job he enjoys/and us be able to live comfortably.
To see my children grow up to be responsible/caring/respectable adults and to know that I was a good mother to them.
Fears:
I will never have the happy marriage I hope for.
I will look back and wish I would have done things differently.
Who do you think you are? I
Who do you think you are?
I think I am a kind caring sensitive person. At my best I think I take time to look at everyone for who they really are. I take time to stop and breath and not go quite so fast through this world that I live in. At my worst. I am at a really fast past and don't really see anybody. I am just living and pushing forward as fast as I can.
When you look in the mirror, what do I see?
Someone that has so many flaws and imperfections. Someone that is never quite sure if people really see me as I am or just see all the masks that I put up for everyone to see.
When you look in your heart, what do you find?
Someone who really loves god, her husband, children and wants so badly to reach the full potential that god wants me to reach.
What are my dreams and fears?
My dreams are to really be able to take that mask off and show people who I really am. Not be so afraid if people really like me or what they think of me. To just serve the lord my family and friends. My fears: I have so many I not sure if I can name them all. I live in so much fear all the time. Fear of driving, Fear of not being liked, Fear of never being who I want to be, Fear of just falling on my face.
With being as raw as I can be that is who I am and I love being me for all my imperfections, fears, and insecurities. And I just pray that I can be the women that I was meant to be.
I AM...
At best I am an involved mother, a caring wife, and a good employee.
At worst I am spiteful, manipulative, and back stabbing.
when i look in the mirror i see a little girl who just isn't good enough at anything.as a classmate once said " a fat lazy slob" even though i know these words are not true it is impossible to get them out of my head.
when i look in my heart i find a lonely child. i am amazed i am able to take care of my children when i am such a child myself.
i dream of i joyful life. one with my adult children calling/ visiting me often. i dream of vacationing and sleeping for 3 weeks.
i fear being without love.
i am not sure who i am. i could put in here a lot of big talk about who i should be. but that doesn't seem to be what you would want.
Who I am
At your best? At my best I am a good wife, a good friend, a good big sister, a good daughter, a good teacher. I'm caring, compassionate, funny, fun-loving, intelligent, confident, loving, sexy, faithful, loyal, thoughtful
At your worst? At my worst I'm petty, vindictive, cruel, weak, insecure, so afraid to fail that I refuse to try,
When you look in the mirror, what do you see? mostly a strong, secure woman loving life, but sometimes a sad, insecure little girl
When you look in your heart, what do you find? A desire to be only those "best" qualities and leave the "worst" in the past
What are your dreams and fears? dreams - to be a great mom and for me and hubby both to have jobs where we're finally happy; fears - still can't shake that fear of failure; losing loved ones
According to you, who are you? I'm still working on it!
I am driven yet unmotivated.
I am driven yet unmotivated. I have an intense sense of purpose, yet constantly struggle with laziness and discontentedness.
Thoughtful yet forgetful. I care immensely about others, but often forget or fall short when it matters most
Complicated yet straight forward. I struggle to identify with others and to fit myself into predetermined categories, but I am an open book and tend to say exactly how I feel.
Introverted but I don’t need alone time. People tend to wear me out and I often struggle for the right thing to say, but I’d much rather have company than be alone.
Confident yet always over thinking. I know who I am but my identity has not come without much thinking and re-thinking.
I am not easily swayed, but have trouble saying “no.”
I am creative, yet orderly.
I have two major fears: losing my husband and having to live life alone, and never living out that greater purpose.
I dream of being completely content with wherever I am, whatever I’m doing.
Who I am.....at least in my opinion
At my best, I think I am a smart, happy, chipper kind of person. I think I am a very good mom, but I could be even better. At my worst, I'm a whiny, know it all, who likes getting my way. I see a normal looking person who could lose some belly fat but is otherwise average. In my heart i find a person who wants to be better but doesn't know how. someone who knows they could be better, it just hasn't happened yet. My dreams are that my kids grow up healthy, happy & they become what they always wanted to become. I also dream of being a famous historian/author. I fear that I make wrong choices.
That's who I am, according to me.
Who am I??? This is realy
Who am I???
This is realy tough for me, I don't usually think about myself. But here goes.............
At my best...I am an out going perky person who tries to look on the bright side always and to see good in everyone, I give most the benifit of the doubt until proven otherwise.
At my worst..I am a loud angry person who yells way too much and swears like a sailor.
When I look in the mirror...I see a girl with pretty eyes, a little overweight, sometimes sad, lost and confused. Wanting to be the perfect wife, mother, sister, daugther and friend. Knowing I do the best I can as a wife, mother, and friend, but will never be the best daughter or sister.
When I look into my heart...I am a loving friend who will go out of their way to help someone in need yet I am unable to ask for help in return. I love my children and my husband with all my heart. I am learning to love and trust in God, this I believe will take a little time.
My dreams...To be financialy stable, to not have to tell my children maybe next week after mommy gets paid. To have a home of my own that I can be proud of and to paint my daughter's room pink and purple if she wants. To take my children places and not have to plan a year in advance.
Fears...I want to be able to answer the phone without fear of another bill collector on the line. I worry about my ability to raise my children into honest, productive, loving adults.
Who am I??? There are days even I don't know this answer, I am a mother, a wife, and a friend. I refuse to grow up in the sense that I want to keep the ability to see the world thru the eyes of a child. There are days when I think WOW I AM the Mommy. Ths is who I have always wanted to be.
Wow... who do I think am I???
At my Best:
I am a very caring, soft hearted, loving, giving daughter, sister, friend, and aunt.
At my Worst:
I am grumpy, loud, sometimes angry, sometimes rude, often don't get in my face or in my path, just don't mess with me type of person...at my worst.
When I look in the mirror what do I see:
Lately I see a stranger looking back at me. Someone I no longer know but someone I absolutely dispise. There is not one thing I like when I look in the mirror... I hate my hair, my sunken eyes with big black circles underneath, my body is no longer in the athletic shape that I worked so hard to obtain---It's now hidden under many, many extra pounds.
When I look into my heart what do I find:
I find a small lost child looking for her place in this world. I find loads of love for my family and friends that will never be told for fear of rejection and abandonment. I find a love for children that is so strongly wants to have a child of my own to hold and love but know that this dream will never come true.
What are my dreams:
I dream of making this world a better place for generations yet to come... I know that may sound hokey but I really want to do this. I dream of helping children find their place in this world, I want to provide a safe place for children and teens to be able to come to provide a listening ear without judgement. I want to provide resources for lost, lonely, and scared children and teens so they can grow to be the best people they can be.
What are my fears:
I am often afraid of myself...long story that really wouldn't make sense to others. I'm afraid of letting my friends and family down. I fear them disappearing from my life. I fear loving my family and friends as my heart wants to but can not.
According to me...who am I??
I am still figuring this out and I really do not know.